I spent the most of my weekend rebuilding and redecorating, but I avoided carrying in the largest item from my vehicle. This parcel was loaded for me by a lovely guy at Target since it weighted more than I believed I could handle.
When I got home tonight, I looked at the gift in my backseat and thought, "I can do this." Once, twice, and three times without success. If only a strong guy, significant other, or even my father were home, the box would be laying on my living room floor, ready to be put together.
The words came out of my lips as I took a big inhale...
I'm in need of a guy.
I was disappointed in myself for even thinking it, much alone speaking it out. After all, I am a strong woman, watch me roar.
Women all throughout the world are preaching independence. And as a 28-year-old single, I've been teaching the same thing. But the hard lifting made me wonder whether it's appropriate to require a guy or any connection at all.
"A meaningful connection is when your passion for one other overcomes your need for each other," I recently heard. That is true of all of our interactions. We shall confront difficult situations in which we will "need" our friends, parents, or important other. And reaching out to them does not imply weakness.
The lesson is to not get engrossed in the connection. It is not necessary to rely exclusively on another person to help you through times of "need."
So I took that lesson and returned to my vehicle.
That gift arrived in my living room. And when this beautiful young gentlemen asked if he could assist, I batted my eyelids and replied, "Yes, please hold the door."
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